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taym pers

Taym pers! (transliteration of the phrase “time first”) is a common expression among Ilocano communities. Thus, the full version, “time out first,” is the literal translation from Tagalog expressions such as tigil muna (stop for a moment or for a while, for the mean time, before everything else, etc.) or teka (wait) muna.

Individuals, especially children,  would utter this phrase when  they are in dire need to take  a break, too exhausted with their activities, feeling hopeless or weak but don’t want to give up on any type of games or activities. What is amazing is the individuals’ reaction to this expression. For instance, during play time, no matter how much kids are into their activities, they would automatically withdraw whatever they are doing every time they hear “taym pers!”. To cease interesting activities is frustrating but children would positively respond to this cry without even realizing its core value, that is, sympathy in it’s deepest sense.

I seldom hear this expression nowadays maybe because I didn’t get a chance to mingle with kids or Filipinos values have deteriorated. Has it simply become archaic and ineffective or has the level of people’s sensitivity significantly diminished? Have people been using this expression to take advantage of the ones showing care or giving chances?

Taym pers should always carry the value of sincerity as it provides relief and a chance to pull oneself up in times of adversities. We can always say “time first” when we need to pause. Time is all we need — to ponder, find solutions, heal wounds or chill out — in order to make things right if not better.

(June 2011)

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i’ve learned that…

i thought the “just be it” motto is easy to live… it’s not when you are hurt so badly

if falling in love is temporary madness, i want to be totally mad for when i’m in love everything is nice and easy it’s because i don’t see things clearly

some people look at a person as a gold digger if s/he is not as rich as the one s/he loves. often, families would ask not how much you love their member but how much you’re earning. they are not interested in knowing a person but in labeling, defining, and identifying his/her connections.

i was advised to save for my own future but people looked at me as someone who didn’t know how to share blessings. i felt more insecure, defensive, pretending, and worried so i decided to enjoy what i worked for while sharing some to others. that was the time i regained people’s compassion and self satisfaction.

it is better not to give than to give against your will

the key to happiness is generosity

a grateful receiver is a cheerful giver

i’d rather not feel inferiority or insecurity since i know who you truly loved

to free yourself from the one you love is an indication of true love. to give yourself to those who need you is an act of selfless love. to love without expecting to be loved is hopeless love. only god’s love is unconditional – no motive, no reason, no limit

What is Love?

What is the Nature of True Love?

– by Jonathan Lockwood Huie

What is Love? Love is a feeling of affection toward someone or something. We can love our comfortable old bathrobe, we can love God, we can love all of humanity, and we can love our Grandmother. All true love is wonderful, but let’s focus here on the feeling of love by one specific person for another specific person. Even so, our love for our spouse is very different from our love for our child, our parent, our friend, or our love for the homeless person we pass a dollar bill to at the corner.

You know you love someone when you know you want them to be happy,
even if their happiness means that you are not a part of it.
– Anonymous

Real love is never a selfish emotion. If you want something from someone – especially if that something is sex – what you are feeling is not love. The wonderful quote above provides an infallible test for love. True love is about wanting happiness for the person you love – and not about seeking happiness for yourself. Fortunately, in most cases our own loving presence is the greatest gift we can give to a person we love. Nonetheless, the litmus test of love is knowing we would choose never to see that person again if we believed that distance would bring them greater happiness.

Love does not claim possession, but gives freedom.
– Rabindranath Tagore

Real love is not possessive or exclusive. When we love someone, we want everyone to love them – we want them to live in the glow of loving and being loved by everyone. If you find the previous sentence challenging, please remember that true love is not sex or lust, and focus on the vital importance of keeping those concepts separate.

Lord, grant that I might not so much seek to be loved as to love.
– St. Francis of Assisi

True love is never conditional. One can never say, “I’ll love you, if you love me.” That would describe some desperate bargain, but nothing approaching real love could be a part of it. True love is not diminished by circumstances. Can you imagine loving someone less because they broke a leg? Got an infection? Lost their job? A love that depends upon the talents and capabilities of the other is conditional, and not real love.

The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched.
They must be felt with the heart.
– Helen Keller

The truest love cannot be explained. If one were to say, “I love her because she is beautiful,” or “I love him because he is handsome,” one would be describing conditional love. The implication is that if the other suffered an accident that scarred their face, the love would end – the very definition of conditional love.

Love me when I least deserve it, because that is when I really need it.
– Swedish Proverb

True love is generous. It is strengthened, rather than weakened, by adversity. In times of trouble, real love shines and sustains both those who love and those who are loved.

The magic words for a great relationship are, “I love you just the way you are.”
– Jonathan Lockwood Huie

A long-running off-Broadway musical comedy has the title “I Love You, You’re Perfect, Now Change.” That title wonderfully summarizes one of the most rampant and destructive tendencies of romantic relationships. Thinking that you would love someone even more if they would only remember to take out the trash, or would enjoy fishing with you, is another form of conditional love.

When you truly love someone, you love them exactly the way they are today – and exactly the way they turn out tomorrow, even if they have a disfiguring accident.

Love is patient, love is kind.
It does not envy, it does not boast,
It is not proud. It does not dishonor others,
It is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered,
It keeps no record of wrongs.
Love does not delight in evil
but rejoices with the truth.
It always protects, always trusts,
always hopes, always perseveres.
Love never fails.
– Corinthians 13:4-8 (NIV)

What is love? Love is generous. Love is kind. Love holds no conditions – there is no “because” for true love. Love is a miraculous gift to the one who loves and the one who is loved.

Here are more quotes that help answer the question “What is Love?” …

Where there is great love there are always miracles.
– Willa Cather

Love is an act of faith, and whoever is of little faith is also of little love.
– Erich Fromm

Miracles occur naturally as expressions of love.
The real miracle is the love that inspires them.
In this sense everything that comes from love is a miracle.
– A Course in Miracles

Hatred paralyzes life; love releases it.
Hatred confuses life; love harmonizes it.
Hatred darkens life; love illumines it.
– Martin Luther King Jr.

Lovers embrace that which is between them rather than each other.
– Khalil Gibran

The opposite of love is not hate, it’s indifference.
– Elie Wiesel

Love that does not renew itself every day becomes a habit and in turn a slavery.
– Khalil Gibran

If you love something, set it free; if it comes backs it’s yours, if it doesn’t, it never was.
– Richard Bach

Love one another but make not a bond of love.
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
– Khalil Gibran

Love is saying “I feel differently,” instead of “You’re wrong.”
– Anonymous

Every good relationship, especially marriage, is based on respect. If it’s not based on respect, nothing that appears to be good will last very long.
– Amy Grant

I love you more than yesterday, less than tomorrow.
– Edmond Rostand

What we have once enjoyed we can never lose.
All that we love deeply becomes a part of us.
– Helen Keller

Marriage, ultimately, is the practice of becoming passionate friends.
– Harville Hendrix

There is no remedy for love but to love more.
– Henry David Thoreau

Love gives naught but itself and takes naught but from itself.
– Khalil Gibran

As we light a path for others, we naturally light our own way.
– Mary Anne Radmacher

True love has no limits.
– Anonymous

Where There is Love, Nothing is Missing.
– Jonathan Lockwood Huie

Life without love is like a tree without blossoms or fruit.
– Kahlil Gibran

Love is not a mere sentiment.
Love is the ultimate truth at the heart of creation.
– Rabindranath Tagore

What Will Matter

The power to chose your own path is what separates the living from those who choose to just be alive.

For each of us eventually, whether we are ready or not, someday it will all come to an end. There will be no sunrises, minutes, hours or days. All the things you collected, whether treasured or forgotten, will pass to someone else. Your wealth, fame and temporal power will shrivel to irrelevance. It will not matter what you owned or owed.

Your grudges, resentments, frustrations and jealousies will finally disappear. So to your hopes, ambitions, plans and to do lists will expire. The wins and losses that once seemed so important will fade away. It won’t matter where you came from or on what side of the tracks you lived at the end. It won’t matter if you are beautiful or brilliant. Even your gender and skin color will be irrelevant.

So what will matter? How will the value of your days be measured?

What will matter is not what you bought but what you built. Not what you got but what you gave. What will matter is not your success but your significance. What will matter is not what you learned but what you taught.

What will matter is every act of integrity, compassion, courage or sacrifice that enriched, empowered or encouraged others to emulate your example. What will matter is not your competence but your character. What will matter is not how many people you knew, but how many will feel a lasting loss when you are gone.

What will matter is not your memories, but the memories that live in those who loved you.

“A life lived that matters is not of circumstance but of choice.”

Steve Kroschel

The Beautiful Truth

A Documentary 2008

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